How do you treat yourself? Self-compassion for success
What is your internal monologue like? We are always thinking: assessing, reflecting, and planning around the circumstances of our lives. If we have high standards for ourselves, the character of our thoughts can be pretty negative. I strive to reach a certain level of productivity and to make certain progress every day. I’m hard on myself […]
The Confidence Pill: Learning to Lean Back
Anyone who is anyone has probably noticed that emotions are a rollercoaster. Your perspective about a situation can swing from certainty to apathy to wild insecurity in the span of hours, even minutes! Sometimes it’s enough to make you wonder if you’re unhinged. Spoiler: you’re not. Being human is just like that. You don’t have to listen to your feelings. […]
Our Work Boundaries, Ourselves
On the phone this morning with friend and fellow entrepreneur, Lisa, a topic that is kryptonite to many of us came up: work and personal boundaries. Boundaries are blurry Lisa was telling the story of a coaching client who wasn’t available during Lisa’s coaching hours – and who pitched that they meet at 8pm on […]
You Don’t Have To Listen To Your Feelings
How many feelings run through you every day, every moment? Feelings that may wildly fluctuate about the exact same thing: your job, your partner, your home, your goals. As I’ve built my business over the past ten months, my mood towards these endeavors has run the gamut from fear and loathing to disbelief to excitement, pride, […]
How Do You Define Success?
Everyone pictures “success” as something different. Perhaps it’s a certain amount of money. Or a house and car. A family. Or some sort of recognition – being published, getting a certain number of unique website visits per month, being on the news, being quoted. Or a particular job. Where did you learn about success? From your parents, […]
Should You? No, You Shouldn’t
Definition of SHOULD (past of shall) – used in auxiliary function to express obligation, propriety, or expediency: “’tis commanded I should do so” — Shakespeare, “this is as it should be” — H. L. Savage, “you should brush your teeth after each meal.” Should is a weird word. The way I hear it used most means […]
What To Do With Bad Feelings
Feeling bad isn’t fun. Most prefer feeling great, but I don’t know anyone who feels great all the time. There’s emphasis in our culture on choosing to feel great, as though feelings are the simple result of decisions and if we want to, we can all feel great all the time. Just think positive! You can control your […]
The Right Words Are Worth A Thousand….
There are many personal and professional situations when we’re not sure what to say. Power dynamics, compassion, fear, discomfort, respect, time, and much more play a part in the words we choose. Like everything, practice makes better. We will all have times when it will be hard to know what to say. Here are several phrases and […]
You: Vitality, Energy, Quickening
“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will […]
If You Suffer From Acute “Lack of Focus”
A few months ago I met Duane Carey. He asked where I see myself in five years, and I described a number of possible Future Eva’s. He understood. He said, “nobody knows what they want to be when they grow up.” I know plenty of professionals who say that semi-jokingly, and are unsure how much longer they will […]
